Co-dependents are people whose most important relationships are with those who have serious problems, such as abusive and controlling behavior or involvement with alcohol and other drugs. Being co-dependent can be frustrating and painful, but co-dependents can "recover" and begin to live satisfying and healthy lives.
Steps to Recovery
- If you are co-dependent, these ideas can help you recover:
- Learn to focus on and trust yourself. If you are honest, open and willing, you can accept that you must live your own life.
- Accept your feelings; happy, angry, sad, resentful, joyful. You have a right to them.
- Recognize when you are overreacting or being unrealistic. Do what you can to help yourself by remaining calm and thoughtful. Talk to trusted friends, take long walks, breathe deeply.
- Look at the patterns in your life. If you find "these things keep happening to me," think about the choices you made which allowed them to happen.
- Seek support and guidance through your Employee Assistance Program, a self-help group or through a member of the clergy.